February is Heart Month. As an advocate for WomenHeart, the National Coalition for Women with Heart Disease, I am committed to help raise awareness of this #1 killer of both women and men.
I got kidney cancer last night. Fortunately, the disease only lasted an hour. The fact that I was the diagnostician had something to do with the length of the disease, but what else could I suspect when, getting ready for bed, the toilet water looked liked I had hemorrhaged? Then I realized these symptoms had been building for the last couple of days. Since I had no other symptoms typical of a UTI, kidney cancer just plain made sense.
As I lay in bed, trying to wrap my mind around my diagnosis, I wondered when I would find the time to pee in a bucket at my doc’s office, only to make it official. Then, my husband Mike showed up for bed. At first I didn’t tell him. I wanted to shield him from the pain. He likes me, or at least he tells me that a lot. Finally, I decided it wasn’t fair to keep the news from him. So, I sat up in bed and announced, “Mike, there’s blood in my urine.” For a moment he was despondent. I like that in a man. Then he paused. “Ahhh, Rudy, do you think it could have something to do with the beets?” Oops! It’s true. About a week ago, I started drinking a daily glass of beet juice. And that was around the same time my urine manifested a funny, much darker and robust color. A fellow heart patient had reported online that she experienced wonderful cardiac symptom improvements with daily beet juice, so I had decided to give it a try. As Mike readied himself for bed, I googled “drinking beet juice” and sure ’nuff, there on WebMD, the last sentence of a 5 page article mentioned an eery symptom of blood-like pee. Oh, well. . .
Here’s the really good news, when I climbed into bed before Mike arrived and subsequently cured me, I whispered a prayer to Jesus and it went something like this: “It’ll be ok, Jesus. I know we’re in this together.”
Have you ever had a scare, unfounded or real? And did you invite Jesus to walk alongside you?
I was recently invited to provide a meal for a local family following the daughter’s serious car accident. The mother would be spending significant time away from home, so, friends, neighbors, and even strangers volunteered to provide meals for the remaining family members. It’s a privilege to help in this way and it reminded me of the times my family has been the recipient of this incredible kindness.
Meals can be organized by the website: http://www.takethemameal.com.
Tips for Providing Meals for a Family in Crisis:
Designate one person (a close friend, aquaintance or available family member) as the key contact person. This person can answer questions that people providing meals may have. Families facing a medical crisis may not have the time, energy, or availability to speak with everyone.
What should this contact person do?
- Set up a schedule for food donations on http://www.takethemamealcom. Base the schedule on the family’s needs. For example, the family may only want meals delivered on weekdays.
- Advise volunteers of food preferences and/or allergies.
- Indicate the best time for delivery.
- Advise volunteers where food should be left if no one is home at the time of the delivery.
- Indicate if the family has room for any freezer items.
- Give directions to people who need them.
- Provide the family with a contact list of who will be coming by.
- Cancel food donations when the family no longer needs help. Consider, as circumstanses permit, phasing out the schedule rather than going from 7 days a week delivery to no deliveries.
If using www.takethemameal.com, several of the above listed details are automatically handled by the website, which makes it a great time saver. Additionally, volunteers can see what foods are being provided. This allows for greater variety.
Tips for those volunteering to provide food:
- Deliver food in disposable containers: plasticware, ziplock bags, covered aluminum trays or pans. While your dishes may be beautiful, it places an added burden on the family to return them and keep them from being broken. Also, young children may be the ones cleaning up after the meal. This enables them to help but you may not want a small child washing your favorite casserole dish.
- Leave minimal preparation for the family. Salad? Send a pre-washed bag of lettuce. Remember all the fixings. Include extras such as cucumber slices, cherry tomatoes, carrot sticks and a box of croutons. Don’t forget bottled salad dressing(s).
- Include written warming directions, if necessary. Don’t plan on giving verbal directions at the door – the person who answers the door may have never stepped foot in a kitchen. Also, there may not be anyone home at the time of your arrival and you may need to leave your food at a pre-designated place.
- Consider weather and the age/demographics of the family when planning your meal. For example – cold salads might be appreciated on hot summer days. A family with lots of kids? They might prefer chicken nuggets to your favorite Aunt Lucy’s brussel sprout souflé.
- Delivery of ice cream or frozen foods should only be made if you know someone will be home to accept them and if the family has room in their freezer.
- Do not overfill containers. Place containers that could spill while being transported on a damp towel in a larger pan or tray. This will avoid any unwanted spills in your vehicle.
- Include snack foods like cookies, fresh fruit. Consider items that could be eaten at breakfast, too.
- Do not overstay your welcome when delivering. Send card(s) or use online methods to let the family know you are thinking of them.
Do not feel you have to be a gourmet cook to contribute – your contribution is a wonderful gift from the heart. The family facing a medical crisis will appreciate your generosity beyond measure.
I was once interviewed by a college student who was doing a paper on the power of humor and heart disease. His mom had suffered a heart attack and this topic was near and dear to his heart. It’s near and dear to my broken and defective heart as well.
Our conversation included how humor and joke telling differs. Both are effective but for me, joke telling is much harder. It requires memory (or at least it should), timing and effective delivery. I prefer telling stories. Funny stories.
But then I thought of my own mom. She loves telling jokes but it’s her lack of delivery skills that makes them so funny. Enjoy.
My mom has since passed away but whenever I really miss her, I visit this video and it always makes me smile.